I agree with most of what has been said. I don't think it's "unfair" as such. I think it's just human nature, like has already been said, to reply to people that you "know". I think a lot of people though do try to reply to posts by people they have never met before. I have done that in the past, only when I have felt strong enough to do so. I think that's the same for everyone. You can only do so much.
I remember when I first joined, and I felt the same way: That "popular" people were getting more replies. But then I started to go in Chat and supported the odd person here or there, and vice versa. And I got to know people. And so I found myself more inclined to make the effort to reply to their posts rather than strangers, because I was struggling myself. I don't think that was unfair of me to do. It's natural to want to reply to people you have built a relationship with, just like it's natural to sometimes become envious of other people that seem to get more help than you, or that's how you perceive it at the time.
It's just human nature really.
I feel uncomfortable with threads like this, because it's almost like people are "accusing" a member of being "popular" when in reality, that's not a bad thing? If being popular means that you have given back a lot to the community and as a result people want to give something back to you, I don't see how that's something that should be viewed as negative? I guess that could be the reverse argument to someone feeling bad because they feel no-one replies to someone. There could also be a member that is made to feel unnecessarily guilty because plenty of people have offered them support.
I apologise if none of the above made sense. It did in my head.
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