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Serendipity. · 02-12-2011, 11:40 PM

Hey,

Yes, I agree that it happens, and it can feel really horrible. I'm sorry that it makes you feel bad. I don't think that there's any way to really change it though; I think it's always just going to be natural for people to reply to people they know well and care about it on a personal level; although it can feel really rubbish if you don't have many friends on RYL, I don't think it's really 'unfair' of anyone to do this.

Ideally, yes, it would be good if there were more people around who would reply to people's support threads regardless of whether they know them. I remember we used to have a '5 replies rule' where everyone was supposed to try to ensure that no post slipped off the front page with less then 5 replies. However, at the same time, it's not something that you can 'expect' of people. They have their own reasons for not being able to offer support to people they don't know; I don't reply much these days simply because I don't have time.

If you get talking to people it does change as people get to know you. I think one of the best ways to get to know people and therefore get replies to your threads is to start posting in one of the 'room' trheads (like the safe room or the one in the SI forum, whatever it's called) - the only reason I know people on RYL is due to 'the big pink comfy couch' and the uni students' thread.

Anyway, sorry for rambling at you. Take care, I hope you're doing okay.

02-12-2011, 11:40 PM	#8
Serendipity. fabulous. Join Date: Nov 2010	Hey, Yes, I agree that it happens, and it can feel really horrible. I'm sorry that it makes you feel bad. I don't think that there's any way to really change it though; I think it's always just going to be natural for people to reply to people they know well and care about it on a personal level; although it can feel really rubbish if you don't have many friends on RYL, I don't think it's really 'unfair' of anyone to do this. Ideally, yes, it would be good if there were more people around who would reply to people's support threads regardless of whether they know them. I remember we used to have a '5 replies rule' where everyone was supposed to try to ensure that no post slipped off the front page with less then 5 replies. However, at the same time, it's not something that you can 'expect' of people. They have their own reasons for not being able to offer support to people they don't know; I don't reply much these days simply because I don't have time. If you get talking to people it does change as people get to know you. I think one of the best ways to get to know people and therefore get replies to your threads is to start posting in one of the 'room' trheads (like the safe room or the one in the SI forum, whatever it's called) - the only reason I know people on RYL is due to 'the big pink comfy couch' and the uni students' thread. Anyway, sorry for rambling at you. Take care, I hope you're doing okay.
Serendipity. fabulous. Join Date: Nov 2010	"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day. Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet. It'll get better. Until then, have a day."