I think an important thing for you to consider right now, is whether you would have ever wanted a relationship with these people? It sounds, from what you have said, as though you are not a good fit relationship wise - and that what you want from them is friendship.
This being the case, please do not take their success in relationships as a reflection on you? You are a fantastic friend, and they seem to still see you as a good friend. After all, they have told you about their relationship and engagement and I can tell you are happy for them.
I think what you need is to look at means of meeting other people and aim for the initial earlier stages of a relationship - The dating. As nothing will come of any relationship if there is an urge to jump straight to commitment.
It is worth remembering that Friend and Partner are very different, one can change to the other, but it is rare, and not fair to expect of every friendship. They simply don't work that way.
Be gentle with yourself. Not having anyone right now does not make you a bad person, so try not to beat yourself up over it. It can take time, so allow yourself that. Go out and meet people, whether friends (as friends) or someone else who may potentially become a partner.
Roiben x
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