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pea soup · 25-08-2011, 03:18 PM

This is something that I have ALWAYS had trouble with.

it has TAKEN its toll in this household. Mostly, the grandparents. I can't raise him the way I did Keith. I can't be a mother figure to him when everything I do or say is undermined by them.

I'm worrying myself sick,literally. Migraine after migraine. I'm at a loss. I have tried to be assertive but it backfires. They take everything as an attack. I make suggestions which are just "thrown under the rug". And then when things with Kaleb aren't going the way they should, everyone just doesn't "understand"??REALLY??

Nana argues with him...he's 7!! You don't engage in arguments with a child! And she speaks however she pleases in front of him, never thinking about the thoughts or ideas she is implanting in his little brain.

I have bashed my head against this neverending wall for 4 years and I HAVE to calm down.

ANY suggestions are welcome. Kick me in the ass if you have to. I'm ready. Just help please.

Thanks.

25-08-2011, 03:18 PM	#1
pea soup Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: at the end of the rainbow I am currently:	How To Change My Reactions To Things I Can't Change? This is something that I have ALWAYS had trouble with. it has TAKEN its toll in this household. Mostly, the grandparents. I can't raise him the way I did Keith. I can't be a mother figure to him when everything I do or say is undermined by them. I'm worrying myself sick,literally. Migraine after migraine. I'm at a loss. I have tried to be assertive but it backfires. They take everything as an attack. I make suggestions which are just "thrown under the rug". And then when things with Kaleb aren't going the way they should, everyone just doesn't "understand"??REALLY?? Nana argues with him...he's 7!! You don't engage in arguments with a child! And she speaks however she pleases in front of him, never thinking about the thoughts or ideas she is implanting in his little brain. I have bashed my head against this neverending wall for 4 years and I HAVE to calm down. ANY suggestions are welcome. Kick me in the ass if you have to. I'm ready. Just help please. Thanks.