hey,
im in a very similar situation to you,down to the either "disclose" or "learn to deal with it" type thing thats been said.
part of their problem is that youre covered by "safeguarding" (children and vulnerable adults),and even though you dont think the person who's done stuff to you would go on to do it to someone else,they still could.which is why whatever detail you gave,would have to be passed on,so that the regional safeguarding team could then make a decision about if to take it further.If it IS deemed to meet safeguarding rules/regs then from what ive read about it,you dont have to consent to take things further(its a complicated thing,but if you google safeguarding vulnerable adults,it'll let you know what happens/explains better than me).
I dont think it's right you cant talk about it,but im also looking at it from "the other side" too(hence im still on the fence about what to do,report and probably have me life turn to more *****,or not and eventually have the same happen anyway).
unfortunately you arent covered by confidentiality on this,which is the reason theyre saying you cant talk about it(though as someone suggested you could chnage the persons name,but i have a feeling it would still be passed on).
i honestly dont know what to suggest.
for me at this present moment,im literally dying to tell someone,its killing me not to,BUT the result of that.....could lose my job,friends,but like you think- not be believed...im slowly trying to talk myself round to telling somone,not just for me,but i'd hate to think i never said anything and someone else got hurt...tough decision though.
apparently whoever you tell can take it further,have you thought about possibly talking to someone from an abuse charity,or the samaritans-im trying to say someone who's never met you so you can omit the details that would need passing on.its all i can think of if you really want to talk about it,without any of the other stuff happeneing.
xxxx
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