Seeing my scars every day makes me sad. Sad that I felt I had no other way to cope than to hurt myself even more than I was hurting already. I've spent years being ashamed of them and trying to hide them by covering up all the time. The fact that we feel that we have to be ashamed of our past and the marks it left us with is as sad as the scars themselves. We may regret now what we did back then, but we did what we did for a reason and it helped us to survive a difficult time in our lives, whether or not we would make the same choices now looking back. I've gotten to the point that I just ignore them and I don't try to hide them any more. For the most part I've found that the more relaxed I am about it, the less people seem to notice or comment/stare. I know that this isn't always possible though and that there are situations and jobs that make it impossible for us to stop trying to hide the scars. I've found that Dermatix gel used over a long period of time is really helpful in making scars less noticable, but it's not a cure and it's really expensive unless you can get it on prescription. I'm thinking of getting a tattoo over some of mine, but you need to talk to the tattooist first to make sure it's going to work as scar tissue doesn't take ink as well as normal skin tissue.
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