you dont know that she wouldnt have responded...it may have been a day or so later for her to get the courage, but i bet she would have...you dont know and because you dont know...you cannot blame yourself for what has happened. They met 9 years ago and i bet some of those years have been good. Our illnesses cause us to do things that we cant help, it causes us to be impulsive in different ways, it causes us to do things that we wouldnt normally do. Im not excusing him for what he did because i believe he was drunk...but even then, he was out of control and unfortunatly picked up a weapon which was threatening and dangerous to you all. He needs help with his drinking, he probably needs help mentaly and i would imagine your mum will need help too or some kind of support..it must have been a huge shock for her.
I am so so sorry this happened to you all, but you are not to blame for them meeting up. Please dont go down this path..it wont be good for you, thoughts get distorted and blame becomes ours and thats not the case for you.....i hope i make sense and i hope i havent offended
much love xxx
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