I used to get really attached to people. It happened a lot with my school teachers and then with mental health professionals. I imagine I have a combination of the 'adult attachment styles' due to issues in my childhood and they change intermittently during time or from person-to-person.
Work in therapy can help you to develop a more 'secure' attachment style, as can being supported to be relatively independent in your everyday life. I find that the more capable you discover you are, the more confidence you have in your ability to self-soothe and look after yourself - but, obviously, discovering that emotional connection is important and comfortable too. The idea is to not be overdependent or underdependent, or to feel undeserving of someone's care.
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