It's not silly or stupid, really. I think a lot of people can sympathise with this. Being miserable is predictable, and thus safer - it's not nice by a long shot, but you're not forever wondering what's going to happen.
I DO think it's a matter of perspective, though. You say there hasn't been a happy time that didn't turn sour somehow. Conversely, though, I'm sure there hasn't been a bad time that didn't eventually become better in some way. It seems easier to focus on the negative things, which makes the good stuff in life seem more fleeting than it really is.
I find that if I try to keep that in mind - that I just have to accept that there are good days and bad days, and that both will come up in the future - then I can concentrate on happiness a bit better.
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