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Sofie · 19-09-2007, 06:59 PM

This is a hard question!

I put a friend of mine in this position (he doesn't understand) and he basically said that I need to tell my parents and get help. He never mentioned to me at all that he was going to tell anyone; I have no idea if this was because he thought he would be betraying my trust (I asked him not to tell anyone. However, 6 weeks later, I said that it was alright for him to ask for advice on a message board we post on as long as my name isn't mentioned)

I'm unsure where I stand on this - part of me thinks that someone should know (as I feel I'm unable to help anyone) but at the same time, I feel as though I'd be betraying their trust.

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I think if someone's self harm was really affecting me, as in they were showing it to me, boasting about it, tip sharing and talking to them got no where, I would have to think about telling someone then too.

If someone, and various people have, come to me and said they were self harming, I wouldn't tell unless it was severely dangerous (as in hitting an artery, needing a blood transfusion) or a suicide attempt (and in both cases I would tell them that's what I was doing, and I would try and persuade them to do it).

Agreed with all the above.

19-09-2007, 06:59 PM	#13
Sofie Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Plymouth I am currently:	This is a hard question! I put a friend of mine in this position (he doesn't understand) and he basically said that I need to tell my parents and get help. He never mentioned to me at all that he was going to tell anyone; I have no idea if this was because he thought he would be betraying my trust (I asked him not to tell anyone. However, 6 weeks later, I said that it was alright for him to ask for advice on a message board we post on as long as my name isn't mentioned) I'm unsure where I stand on this - part of me thinks that someone should know (as I feel I'm unable to help anyone) but at the same time, I feel as though I'd be betraying their trust. Quote: I think if someone's self harm was really affecting me, as in they were showing it to me, boasting about it, tip sharing and talking to them got no where, I would have to think about telling someone then too. If someone, and various people have, come to me and said they were self harming, I wouldn't tell unless it was severely dangerous (as in hitting an artery, needing a blood transfusion) or a suicide attempt (and in both cases I would tell them that's what I was doing, and I would try and persuade them to do it). Agreed with all the above.