I think it depends on the circumstances.
When I was in hospital there were some day patients who were cutting, sharing blades and cutting together on the ward. They swapped tips and tlaked about it constantly. I felt really angry because I was an inpatient, I had to stay for periods of time without cutting, whereas they only had to stay a few hours and could go home whenever. Also in a hospital like ours there is no excuse, I realise in some hospitals there are crap resources and staff, but ours was like amazing, and even the most crappiest staff can do basic distraction like playing table tennis or sitting with you. I was 'expelled' when I did self harm (a year and a half ago) on the ward, although they allowed me back, I got into serious trouble, I had a telling off that had me in tears, when they were doing it repeatedly, and other patients were coming to me really distressed and saying how triggered and upset they were by it.
So in that case I told.
I think if someone's self harm was really affecting me, as in they were showing it to me, boasting about it, tip sharing and talking to them got no where, I would have to think about telling someone then too.
If someone, and various people have, come to me and said they were self harming, I wouldn't tell unless it was severely dangerous (as in hitting an artery, needing a blood transfusion) or a suicide attempt (and in both cases I would tell them that's what I was doing, and I would try and persuade them to do it).
I certainly wouldn't tell just any teacher or a parent either. I would make sure I was telling someone they trusted. I think it's really unfair to tell on people's self harm unless they're in serious danger because they've already done a realy hard thing by coming to you, and you might make the situation a lot worse by exposing them.
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