"The thing is- I put myself in dangerous situations. I was young and naive and I was hurt... but until recently I couldn't even get my head round it being anything other than teenage experimentation. ****ssake I was thirteen"
I remember 13, only the boy I was 'experimenting' with was 15 so by no means a responsible adult...
I was so ashamed afterward, thought I was a grown up but when i realised I was out of my depth it was too late to say no, well thats what I thought, things had gone too far.
What makes it hit home about how young I was is looking at my 12 year old brother and thinking how awful it would be if he was getting up to what I was in just a years time... Then in the same train of thought I realise that it takes an adults mind and hindsight to realise this, so I don't beat myself up about it.
This is why the fact your guy was 22 makes it completely unacceptable on his part, I turned 22 just a couple of days a go... If a 13 year old came onto me or threw themselves at me or whatever I'd be running a mile in the opposite direction! Like any normal responsible person.
I can understand why it hurts now when you're admitting to yourself you were actually abused, its not a nice thing to realise and admit... none of us like to admit we've been a victim... no matter what of...
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