I remember when I was in school I was having problems with an ED, anxiety and depression. My mums issues were feeding my own problems (e.g. her refusing to cook for us), for this reason I kept my issues from my parents until the matter was taken out of my hands and my doctor told them. Following this I had my mum crying on my shoulder telling me how she felt like she was a bad mother. I told this to my head of sixth form her reply was "well maybe she should". Her response shocked me because when ever it was mentioned in front of any/every one else they turned it on me that I shouldn't be affected by my mum's neuroses. The amount of arguments I have had with my elder sister because I have objected to something my mum has done apparently 14/16/18 y/o me should have risen above it because my mum has always been the way she has been. I am sorry, it hurts that when I needed her the most she failed me and resulted in me parenting her through my breakdown.
Sorry gone off on a bit of a rant. subject matter touches a nerve...
|