I don't have a similar experience really, although I also have major social anxiety and fears of calling people, so I can relate to how you're feeling definitely.
But I just thought I'd say that one time one of my teachers phoned my house during the evening to talk to my parents about a meeting they were having about me at school the next day because I was having problems. And we were having dinner at the time, so technically he interrupted our dinner.
But it was not an issue at all. Because he was helping me, and we knew he was there to help, and it meant a huge deal to me that he had called so late because it was the evening and it should have been his own time, and he was using that time to try and help me.
I know it's not the same situation, but basically I just wanted to say that however scared you know, know that they will be grateful to you because you are there to help them. And if on that small chance they were eating etc, all that would happen is that they could let you know and then they could phone you back. Which would be very scary for you, but then it would be over. And often the anticipation and the fear can be worse than actually doing it.
Sorry this is so long and that I can't say anything more helpful, but good luck (and well done for your new job). Try to fight the urges to self-harm - can you try and write a list of the reasons you stopped doing it if you're forgetting, something to remind you if you need it?
Take care, x
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