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Merc · 27-01-2011, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by earthbound_misfit

I am sorry you are feeling this awful. It's great that you have something to look forward to, a long term idea of something you want - to have hope for the future and a reason to keep going can be so helpful.
There is absolutely no reason that you cannot be a mother one day, I know that often it may feel like you'll never be ready, but remember that these negative, hopeless feelings are part of what you're battling.
It can be so easy to compare ourselves to others and feel we've failed somehow - but to be blunt, 'life is what you make of it', and if you've been handed a big pile of crap then the fact that you're still here and still going is pretty damn impressive. And there can be a crap-free future...

Another thought - is there a way perhaps in the closer future to satisfy/utilise 'mothering' tendencies in another way? eg. volunteering or working in care or something? People who have struggled often have the gentleness and empathy for this kind of thing.

Please know that you are not alone
Many hugs
B x

^^Wanted to highlight that bit as it is a great idea. Perhaps volunteering in a daycare type setting could be the first step in recovery for you.
Definitely something to think about and look into.
You mentioned therapy, is this something you could mention to them? Maybe they can help you find a suitable placement.

27-01-2011, 11:12 PM	#4
Merc Join Date: May 2004	Quote: Originally Posted by earthbound_misfit I am sorry you are feeling this awful. It's great that you have something to look forward to, a long term idea of something you want - to have hope for the future and a reason to keep going can be so helpful. There is absolutely no reason that you cannot be a mother one day, I know that often it may feel like you'll never be ready, but remember that these negative, hopeless feelings are part of what you're battling. It can be so easy to compare ourselves to others and feel we've failed somehow - but to be blunt, 'life is what you make of it', and if you've been handed a big pile of crap then the fact that you're still here and still going is pretty damn impressive. And there can be a crap-free future... Another thought - is there a way perhaps in the closer future to satisfy/utilise 'mothering' tendencies in another way? eg. volunteering or working in care or something? People who have struggled often have the gentleness and empathy for this kind of thing. Please know that you are not alone Many hugs B x ^^Wanted to highlight that bit as it is a great idea. Perhaps volunteering in a daycare type setting could be the first step in recovery for you. Definitely something to think about and look into. You mentioned therapy, is this something you could mention to them? Maybe they can help you find a suitable placement.
Merc Join Date: May 2004