Originally Posted by
lynx
This has nothing to do with your BPD love. It's bisexuality and curiosity stuff kicking in. You're married, and I'm sure you want to stay with your husband so please do so. You should agree with him whether or not to start something with that girl if you both really want to and are okay with the situation. If not, you'll have to get over the fact that not everything can settle itself & get over the girl like 'normal' people have to do, too.
Good luck.
It's actually got nothing to do with me being curious and married. I've been having relationships with women for 9 years, (a lot longer than I've been married for.)
Both my husband and the girl where completely aware of where everyone stood, and like I said, this is not the first time this has happened. We all spoke about it before anything even happened, it was just me that couldn't deal with it. I got obsessed in the "ideation/devaluation" (whatever its called) way.
As I also said, I've had a lot of other stuff going on which has contributed (but I didn't want to write an essay.)
My pyschiatrist doesn't understand why this is such an issue for me either, yet a few of my friends with BPD completely get it... and I know in myself its not just curiosity.