Yeah to me it sounds like she's manipulating the situation a bit. I know she may be desperate to have a friend, but that's not fair on you to expect you to change everything around for her all the time. She needs to try and make other friends, you can't be her only support. I'd say keep being firm, if she throws a fit about it, let her throw a fit about it. If she walks away, let her, she needs to respect you if she wants you to be her friend. In the end if she won't listen, she's not going to be a good friend, and it's not good to have a friendship out of feeling bad for someone, it needs to be an actual two way relationship. So realize you aren't being mean, you have a right to say no to her and if she won't respect that then it's honestly not going to work. I can't imagine how hard that must be, but it really sounds like it's frustrating you so I would really suggest being very firm and willing to let the relationship go if you must.
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