The sad truth is there is nothing you can do, until he wants to change everything will carry on as usual. If he wants to kill himself in this way then there is nothing you can do about it. That's hard to accept because you care about him, but sadly it doesn't matter to him at the moment how many people care about him and get hurt.
But you can do something about yourself, you don't need to let this destroy your life. Moving on is difficult, but you can (and I hope will) do it. I'm not an expert at moving on unfortunately! But something I find helpful, apart from the see a counsellor/keep busy/take up a new hobby/do relaxation exercises is to allow myself a 'obsessing time' every day - 10 or 15 minutes where I allow myself to go over and over the same thoughts no matter how negative. For the rest of the day I try to distract and redirect myself.
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