RYL Forums - View Single Post

Snow White. · 05-09-2007, 02:16 PM

Hey Ian,

Thanks for taking the time to reply to that and write that all out, it means a lot to me.

You said that your mum was supportive and that sometimes you found your dad to be that way, too. That's a really good thing in a relationship - an element of support, maybe it's time you tried to use that a bit more. These people are your parents and they care about you. In regards to what you said about answering the question "How are you" from your parents, maybe you could start more gently by saying "I'm tired" or "I'm stressed" or "I'm sad", and then allowing a discussion after that? Then you break down the wall a bit and allow yourself that support.

It can be really difficult to talk about these feelings so I'm not at all suprised that you struggle with it, many people do, so try and start of gently and slowly and see where you can go from there. Also, it will let your parents in a bit more so they can see you're not doing too well, and be able to be there for you.

When you're going through something like this, and these awful feelings, support is a big thing, afterall, why do people keep coming here? Being able to be listened to and have your feelings heard is important, so please consider ways that you can do that and things you can try to communicate how you feel. You could even write it down.

I can hear the pain in your words love, and nobody should have to go through what you're going through. If you're attempting suicide so often then maybe you need to sit down with your counsellor and really assess your situation, and ways they can help you further.You really need them to be there for you at this time, please try and be honest with them and get that support.

Even after reading your post hun, I do not feel you are selfish or a scumbag. Not at all! This is just a belief you have that is perhaps fueled by your depression, but it's not the reality of how we feel about you. One day, too, you'll be able to see yourself for who you really are.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shadow

I want to die because i cant cope with this anymore.

What you are really saying here is common of most people who are suicidal. People often turn to suicide attempts/actions not because they want to die, but because they want the pain to end. There is a difference. You can work towards and have your pain end here, while you are still alive. It just takes a bit of work with therapy, meds, and other things in your life. But ending your life won't get rid of the pain, it won't solve anything; and hun, we want you around - we are not better off without you.

Please, be strong
xoxo

05-09-2007, 02:16 PM	#12
Snow White. I am a fairy. Join Date: May 2004 I am currently:	Hey Ian, Thanks for taking the time to reply to that and write that all out, it means a lot to me. You said that your mum was supportive and that sometimes you found your dad to be that way, too. That's a really good thing in a relationship - an element of support, maybe it's time you tried to use that a bit more. These people are your parents and they care about you. In regards to what you said about answering the question "How are you" from your parents, maybe you could start more gently by saying "I'm tired" or "I'm stressed" or "I'm sad", and then allowing a discussion after that? Then you break down the wall a bit and allow yourself that support. It can be really difficult to talk about these feelings so I'm not at all suprised that you struggle with it, many people do, so try and start of gently and slowly and see where you can go from there. Also, it will let your parents in a bit more so they can see you're not doing too well, and be able to be there for you. When you're going through something like this, and these awful feelings, support is a big thing, afterall, why do people keep coming here? Being able to be listened to and have your feelings heard is important, so please consider ways that you can do that and things you can try to communicate how you feel. You could even write it down. I can hear the pain in your words love, and nobody should have to go through what you're going through. If you're attempting suicide so often then maybe you need to sit down with your counsellor and really assess your situation, and ways they can help you further.You really need them to be there for you at this time, please try and be honest with them and get that support. Even after reading your post hun, I do not feel you are selfish or a scumbag. Not at all! This is just a belief you have that is perhaps fueled by your depression, but it's not the reality of how we feel about you. One day, too, you'll be able to see yourself for who you really are. Quote: Originally Posted by Shadow I want to die because i cant cope with this anymore. What you are really saying here is common of most people who are suicidal. People often turn to suicide attempts/actions not because they want to die, but because they want the pain to end. There is a difference. You can work towards and have your pain end here, while you are still alive. It just takes a bit of work with therapy, meds, and other things in your life. But ending your life won't get rid of the pain, it won't solve anything; and hun, we want you around - we are not better off without you. Please, be strong xoxo Last edited by Snow White. : 05-09-2007 at 02:30 PM. Reason: spelling xo