i think that her reaction was probably because she doesn't understand it. to someone who doesn't know about the feelings and situations behind it, it really doesn't make any sense at all. cause if she doesn't know that its a coping mechanism, and that it actually works in the short term to releive whatever the feeling/non feeling is, then she isn't really going to be able to understand why. also, cause she asked, she may be worried about you, and was somehow trying to make sure that you knew she was disapproving and that she didn't want you to do that (though if thats what she meant, it was a bad way to go about it).
maybe if you want to approach the topic with her, without telling her about your SI, you could say that you knew a friend or something, and this is how he/she feels, etc.
also, if she didn't know about it, it could just sorta be a shocked reaction.... i know that before they knew about my cutting, my mom had once made a statement to the effect that she would rather have me on drugs or pregnant than hurting myself. but when she found out the situation, she took alot of time to learn about it and try and understand it, and it actually ended up being good.
can you distract yourself right now? maybe journal, or write your mom a letter explaining how what she said made you feel? you don't have to send it, just writing it can sometimes help. can you find things that you like about yourself, to sorta block out the disgusted feeling?
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