troubleshooter thank you so much. I'll try the water spraying thing. :)
Sometimes I don't know if he wants me close or not because he offten doesn't say anything as a reply if I ask him something when he's having a flashback. He'll speak, but most of the it's a cry for help like "make him/it stop". And that's the most heartbreaking thing in the world for me because I can't/don't know how to just make it stop, and when he says that I'm not even sure if he's really talking to me. Thanks so much for the advice. :)You have been so helpful. It's kinda funny that you said red car because red is a color that triggers him. For a little bit I thought if I did wear red around him it would show him that is wasn't always a bad color...:/ That did not end well, and I now no longer wear red around him at all...but still it seems like red things are everywhere. I will have to ask him about doing that with his therapist. That sounds like a very good idea. We're both 18. yes, I know to be carefull. :( He's told me he's scared that he'll hurt me when he's haveing one because He has hurt himself during and after flashbacks and nightmares. But I wasn't sure if that had anything to do with the fact that he si's too though. I think he already does keep a journal. I'm not sure though, so I will have to ask him about that too. Thanks again you guys!
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