It's fairly common for alcoholics and addicts to blame others for their actions. Talking to him may help, and you may succeed in getting him to seek help, but ultimately if he isn't ready to stop, there's nothing *you* can really do. Supporting him if he chooses to seek help is huge, but remember that you can't do this for him. And I keep saying seek help instead of "quitting drinking" because true alcoholics can rarely stay sober based on knowledge and willpower alone. I know that was certainly the case for me.
The way you're feeling is also common. If you're already in some form of therapy, talking about it there may help. Something else to look into is Al-Anon, which is basically AA for the family and friends of the alcoholic, whether they are still active in their addiction or are in recovery. Instead of being powerless over alcohol, Al-Anon says that you are powerless over the alcoholic. Hearing from others in the same situation as you and how they deal with it may help you better deal with yours.
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