Hi Liv, I think your mum getting into photography and art is a really good idea if that's what she enjoys. I think everyone anyway should invest more time into what they really love doing. Maybe it might we worth sitting down with your mum and thinking together how she would like to spend her time. Maybe she has hopes, dreams and ambitions she'd like to achieve? I know for you to do that might feel like quite an upsetting thing to do but I honestly think that people should spend a lot more time each day doing what makes them happy. For your family going through must have just brought home what's really important in life. I'm sure each day feels special to you guys now and that really is how every day should feel regardless of your mum's prognosis.
I do think it's a good idea to talk to your hospice counsellor about this and Macmillan would probably have really good practical information about finances if that is what your mum's worried about. It at least would give you a clearer idea if she's entitled to anything she doesn't know about.
You say hon that you don't want to be sad or to make anybody else sad but the fact is you are and so will everybody else be from time to time. That's normal and it doesn't mean there won't be a load of happy times as well. Your mum will have read the statistics herself and she knows the reality of the situation so I don't think you need to pretend when it comes to her (in fact maybe's she worried that you're in denial.) I know that sounds quite gloomy and you're right there is always hope but you can have hope while not pretending everything's fine for everybody else's sake Liv. You have hope while still admitting this is scary. The last line of your post said everything and that'll you need to remember.
*gentle cuddles*
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