I don't think my mum's ever looked into volunteering, so I will mention that to her, thank-you. I know she is considering doing art lessons or photography lessons too, so that will hopefully be good to keep occupied too. I know my mum is worried about money (she's down to half-pay now, and she's worried about it, although obviously there's also DLA etc too, I don't really know all the ins and outs, but yeah), which is why she's going back to work (if occupational health let her, but I really can't see them saying no), but we just want my mum to be happy, that's the most important thing obviously.
It is probably true that I am being over optimistic to compensate. We all know the statistics are low, and that even if it becomes operable or if the radiotherapy has removed it (which hopefully it has, because they said the outward signs looked good), but even then the statistics are bad, it's very rare to live past 5 years, and often it returns within 2 years, although there is that percentage who do make it, and there is always hope. I think maybe it will be easier in November once we know, but also after March, because in March they said probably less than a year, and although that's changed now it's still hard to forget it.
Partially I think it is not being over optimistic as such, but pretending to be, if that makes sense. It's partly a case of that I don't really know what to say, like if people talk about it happening within the next few years. It just makes me want to cry, but I don't want to be sad or to make anyone else sad, especially my mum, so I try to be positive and optimistic and happy about everything, I just want to make my mum happy. But then, there's not really anything I can say to make it better. It's just a case of making the next few years special just in case, and of making sure we'll all be ok, before and afterwards.
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