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Horizon · 05-09-2010, 01:15 AM

I don't think it's weird to worry, but I think it's unhealthy to worry to that degree.
I know it's hard, but try not to think about what they may or may not think about you. They are also probably concerned with what people think of them. It's the spotlight effect type thing...when people think people are focusing on things about them, especially what they consider negative things, when really people aren't even looking or thinking about them.

The more you worry about it, the more you will stress yourself and will probably "awful-ize" things, as my therapist calls it, where you focus on everything that could possibly go wrong.

05-09-2010, 01:15 AM	#2
Horizon Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA I am currently:	I don't think it's weird to worry, but I think it's unhealthy to worry to that degree. I know it's hard, but try not to think about what they may or may not think about you. They are also probably concerned with what people think of them. It's the spotlight effect type thing...when people think people are focusing on things about them, especially what they consider negative things, when really people aren't even looking or thinking about them. The more you worry about it, the more you will stress yourself and will probably "awful-ize" things, as my therapist calls it, where you focus on everything that could possibly go wrong.