Thanks Mari. :)
Yeah. Totally like that.
I think I'm seeing more and more now what my therapist has explained to me - how growing up at home I was never given a model of negotiating and talking things through and understanding different viewpoints. Dad was 'God'. Mum was in the wrong. Katherine was bad and it was all her fault too. That's what I 'learned'. Even though I am learning a more connected way of communicating as an adult, the default is still there when a 'trigger' pushes in. It's like when a computer lands with a certain kind of virus, one that overrides the virus protection and cancels it out. :\
Part of the thing for me is when something gets stirred up - like from the abortion thread - I get a whole heap of shame, and it feels too shameful to talk about. I need to overcome this, I know.
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