I know how you feel, I find it hard to maintain friendships, and most of the time they pass like ships in the night.
I have often believed that it is best to isolate myself, and I have done so on numerous, but it has had catastrophic repercussions on me because I, like you, am a naturally sociable person and I do get on with people, but like you I was brought up to believe that I wasn't worth anything and shouldn't try because of the constant bullying from when I was about 6 to 12, which included the sexual abuse from my cousin, and when I was 15 and I thought I was out the storm my ex made me feel like the smallest, unworthiest person alive when he started hitting me and treated me any way he could because he knew he could get away with it.
The way I think of it, you have to think of number 1 (i.e. yourself). I also have a tendency to put others before me, but it's not good because you have to fulfill your own needs first before you try and fulfill anyone else's. I am sure you can find at least one person who'll understand and won't think you're needy. I am needy too, I have gone through many "friends" who couldn't deal with me and ended our friendship, but then you just have to think "well they weren't worth my time" and move on to find someone else.
Hope this helps, sorry if it doesn't.
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