OK first off being a mum on normal terms is hard let alone what you and your family have been through but was needs to happen is for you to stop blaming your self for allowing the man in that hurt you all because if you had been aware at that time you would not have let him in.
Stop being hard on your self children can be little bastards really lol not that we like to think of our angel like that. Your children dont hate you they are just hurting and props dont know how to deal with it all and they are just taking it out on you. BUt be there for them talk about what happend let them know he is never coming back and can never hurt you all again. Children bounce back but for now you need to be the support system they require. Maybe your children need professional help to come to turms with what happened.
You need to learn independace its a state of mind which you go in when you have been really hurt, it ensure that you get back on your feet stop relying on other then you cant get hurt as much and get you and your family through this.
Its a hard time and i hope some of what i have said will make sence
im here if u want to chat
luv jad
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