Originally Posted by
Facet
Moke - all my alters named themselves and made their names known to me by carving their names into my skin.
The important thing to remember is that they are not different "people", they are different identities that hold different things, and their existence was necessary for survival. So to say that someone with DID could "train" themselves to deal with grief in a more controlled manner is quite frankly ridiculous. Media portrays people with DID as out of control and just freaking out all over the place, when really it's a secretive thing and mostly is barely noticeable.
Alright, so I just woke up and stuff, but wanted to reply. Maybe I'll make more sense later.
I think maybe my reference to "control" came across wrong. I didn't mean so much out of control as the fact that people can't control the timing of when x personality decides to come out - I've seen people on this forum referring to not wanting a particular personality to show its face to certain people, or at certain times - in that respect, at least, it appears there is a lack of control of what's happening, whether it's noticeable or not.
I'm aware that the media thing overhypes DID (don't get me started on Me, Myself and Irene), I have a psychology degree so have *some* awareness that it's not this crazy messy disorder of rapid personality switches... but it's obviously still difficult to deal with so it was natural to assume that the ultimate goal was to "cure" wherever possible (it may sound ridiculous, but to someone with no great deal of knowledge in the matter, it's really not - which is precisely why I asked the question in the first place! I like to understand things)
Ultimately, whilst I supposed that assimilation would be the only way to "regain control", I've learnt from this conversation that communication and adapting is the main approach and if that works, it's great.
i'm probably not explaining myself very well, lack of sleep and general crapness on my part, so again, sorry if I'm treading on any toes or just sounding stupid, I'm just trying to learn and understand. Education is a good thing :)