For me, lb, the 'romanticising' was partly 'oh, sweet little girl, she'll be loved' but then I was slowly confronted with the harsh reality of how I am NOT in a little girl's body any more, and can't have the kind of love she needed then, now. [But I CAN parent myself, and have healthy role modelling from my therapist and others in this.] My eyes have been opened to how destructive and diminishing of me in my life now my little girl inside is.
Regarding Katrina-mind, well, she'll protect me now like I wasn't protected back then, my heroine! Actually, no, it's not like that.
Sad fact is that these split off me-s are defences, which I created to care for myself and survive BACK THEN. Now isn't back then. They perpetuate the past in the hope of present repair and resolution. But it doesn't work that way.
They-I deserve and need compassion, true. But their real nature should not be veiled in 'romanticism'.
Shocking truth - child alter states/embedded inner children are NOT cute and sweet and sugar and spice. They're wounded and defended and trapped in the behaviours they learned back then. They're frozen in time and hurting and screaming and unable to communicate their needs clearly.
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