Originally Posted by
reallifetime
I support a lot of people on this site.I take time out to answer threads ,even ones I dont really know what to say to.lately ,even more i find that I might get one reply to a thread I post.
I find this very discouraging and have been put off coming on this site at all.
i was very close to Oding one night and nobody answered me .i think this is terrible.i think there are cliques on this site and since I have no apparant friends on here ,I may as well rot to f*ck.
I honestly dont even see the point in even coming on this site anymore.I got a very angry answer when I posted on the first aid thread.I was sorry for posting at all
I think this is something that has been true for awhile and one of the reasons I posted about the "Everything Goes" thread.
There are so many forums and so many similar threads that echo other threads that a kind of stale quality has set in. I won't blame cliques per se although they play a part.
The vitality and sense of imperative that used to guide forums just isn't there anymore. A lot of activity has become an exercise of attempting to be engaged without really being able to so - and I think people actually want to be engaged but just hit dead ends with their enthusiasm due to "buffering" mechanisms built into the forum structure.
At one time too many things got out of hand on RYL so the safe approach became one of taking the edge off conflict and nestling everyone into like minded threads/forums to reduce then dissonance.
Diversity is good when it highlights commonality - when it's used to highlight separateness it makes the sum less than the parts.
Of course none of this came about by neglect of forums but an attempt to make things better. There are good people here for the most part.