Don't intend to stir the pot here, but it does occur to me that a lot of people here already feel self-conscious, awkward and inadequate. I can understand being annoyed by terms of endearment, yeah; if you're trying to identify yourself in a particular way, anything that goes against that is going to work on you. It's also a lot easier to over-analyze things when they're typed/written out rather than just said aloud.
I don't see any way to police it, though. It's a push; if you want to ask that people not use those terms of endearment, that's your prerogative and your right. It's neither right nor wrong. But I'd be asking myself whether my annoyance was worth reinforcing feelings of insecurity or outright invalidation in someone else who's also struggling to establish an identity and make good.
I can say that if someone were openly picky over how they wanted to be informally addressed (aside from nicknames or given names), that would make me less inclined to address them at all, just because I didn't want to deal with the hassle. But that's just my personal opinion.
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