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atrophy · 10-05-2010, 06:18 PM

I think you're wrong.

I think if you have to be 100% sure about anything in your entire life, then whether you want to kill yourself or not is a good place to start. I mean, surely it's the one decision that you can't change your mind about, one mistake you will never rectify and, as that is most definitely the case, I think you need to be 100% sure before you go ahead with it. And you're right: if you were 100% sure, you wouldn't be here. So, whether you've 50% sure, or 90% sure, we need to capitalise on that other 50% or 10% and focus on the things that are making you wonder. What's stopping you from being 100% sure?

At the end of the day, most people consider suicide because they have too much pain in their lives that they don't feel that they can cope with. They see suicide, or death, as a release from that pain. But, if you're dead, how do you feel that relief? How do you ever feel that peace you so crave? The only way you will ever do that is by living, and by overcoming the things in your life that cause you pain. You think your pain will end with death, but you won't be alive to appreciate that. And, consider this, instead of your pain finishing with your suicide, that pain gets passed on, and tenfold, to every single person you have touched in your life that will mourn your death. That's a pretty huge burden to pass on when you're not 100% sure it's the right decision, so give yourself a fighting chance.

You say you've done so much talking - and I believe you - but you obviously haven't been saying what you need to say. Every problem in your life can be resolved. Sometimes it's hard to identify those resolutions when our thoughts are so clouded with depression, and that's why talking helps. Talking about our problems helps us to get other ideas on how to deal with them, on how to cope, and that's going to be really beneficial to you right now. I'm not saying that talking will make everything okay - far from it. But getting things off your chest will relieve some of that tension bubbling under your skin, and you never know -- we might come up with some ideas that will help! At the end of the day, you hold within yourself the power to change your life, to make everything okay, to be happy, but you need to stop convincing yourself that suicide is a viable option and, instead, put your energy into trying to make this situation better.

10-05-2010, 06:18 PM	#7
atrophy Join Date: May 2010 Location: London	I think you're wrong. I think if you have to be 100% sure about anything in your entire life, then whether you want to kill yourself or not is a good place to start. I mean, surely it's the one decision that you can't change your mind about, one mistake you will never rectify and, as that is most definitely the case, I think you need to be 100% sure before you go ahead with it. And you're right: if you were 100% sure, you wouldn't be here. So, whether you've 50% sure, or 90% sure, we need to capitalise on that other 50% or 10% and focus on the things that are making you wonder. What's stopping you from being 100% sure? At the end of the day, most people consider suicide because they have too much pain in their lives that they don't feel that they can cope with. They see suicide, or death, as a release from that pain. But, if you're dead, how do you feel that relief? How do you ever feel that peace you so crave? The only way you will ever do that is by living, and by overcoming the things in your life that cause you pain. You think your pain will end with death, but you won't be alive to appreciate that. And, consider this, instead of your pain finishing with your suicide, that pain gets passed on, and tenfold, to every single person you have touched in your life that will mourn your death. That's a pretty huge burden to pass on when you're not 100% sure it's the right decision, so give yourself a fighting chance. You say you've done so much talking - and I believe you - but you obviously haven't been saying what you need to say. Every problem in your life can be resolved. Sometimes it's hard to identify those resolutions when our thoughts are so clouded with depression, and that's why talking helps. Talking about our problems helps us to get other ideas on how to deal with them, on how to cope, and that's going to be really beneficial to you right now. I'm not saying that talking will make everything okay - far from it. But getting things off your chest will relieve some of that tension bubbling under your skin, and you never know -- we might come up with some ideas that will help! At the end of the day, you hold within yourself the power to change your life, to make everything okay, to be happy, but you need to stop convincing yourself that suicide is a viable option and, instead, put your energy into trying to make this situation better.
atrophy Join Date: May 2010 Location: London