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black_vortex · 21-08-2007, 12:55 PM

I also agree with Chloe. Personally, i stopped SI, got back in control of myself, which helped (after a long while) to stop the feelings. Back they will come back. Like alcoholics, we never forget. We may always struggle. But we have to fight. Because things are so much better once you stop. You have control, and the strength to confront those things that are issues for you. "What if its the only thing that makes the feelings go away for abit?" Thats how a lot of SI'ers feel, including previously, me. But you have to fight the feelings, rationalise them, understand them.You just have to want to quit, and honestly try, and keep trying. Thats the key.

21-08-2007, 12:55 PM	#4
black_vortex Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Newcastle, Australia I am currently:	I also agree with Chloe. Personally, i stopped SI, got back in control of myself, which helped (after a long while) to stop the feelings. Back they will come back. Like alcoholics, we never forget. We may always struggle. But we have to fight. Because things are so much better once you stop. You have control, and the strength to confront those things that are issues for you. "What if its the only thing that makes the feelings go away for abit?" Thats how a lot of SI'ers feel, including previously, me. But you have to fight the feelings, rationalise them, understand them.You just have to want to quit, and honestly try, and keep trying. Thats the key.
	~He accepts that ambiguity and compromise are a part of life, but he doesn’t necessarily like it. It’s not his way to dwell in gray areas, not to try and resolve complex situations. And yet, if he’s really honest with himself, this time he doesn’t care. He surrenders to what he wants, not what he must. ~