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DontLookUp · 18-03-2010, 10:24 PM

1. List the ways that you self-harm - cutting

2. How do these behaviors help you survive? - control, release and calm

3. How does this behavior give me a sense of control? I'm not sure, it just helps me get control of my feelings back.

4. How/Why does this behavior release endorphins (the happy factor) and make me feel better? umm.. i think maybe cause when you bleed endorphins are released to help stop the pain and heal the cut?

5. How does this behavior give me revenge? i've never thought of what i do in terms of revenge, more of self hatred.

6. How does this behavior punish me? hurts me afterwards, cuts make me feel better cause i know at least if i have hurt myself i am getting what i deserve.

7. When and why did you start this behavior? a few months ago, i didnt mean to but it just happened because i just couldnt cope anymore.

8. How/Why does this behavior bring me affection, care, or emotional closure? (How does it comfort you? if this applies) because i know that at the end of it all, i always have a way to feel better when nothing else can help and i am hurting so much.

Copy and paste this section, delete the lines that do not apply to you, leaving only the ones that do:

I want to express my rage at myself
I hate myself
I want to distract myself from other pain
I want to numb my feelings
I have a message to give that I cant' say directly
I am asking for help
I want to be rescued
I want to express my shame
I am trying to express my pain
I am trying to bring my emotions under control
I am trying to release emotional tension
I need a release valve
I need to get into a "neutral zone"
I am trying to buy myself time by focusing attention on physical rather than emotional pain

Now, think about your reason(s) for harming, list 3-5 things you could do instead.
1. shower
2. listen to music and read
3. cry and sleep

Which of the following are true for you? (Again delete the ones that do not apply for you)

It's my body, I can do what I want with it (sometimes believe this)
It's no big deal and shouldn't upset anyone (i sometimes believe this)
If I don't hurt myself this way, my pain will be worse
No one knows about it anyways
I need to be punished for what I did (sometimes)
It just shows how bad a person I am (and sometimes)

FINALLY! I'm adding one more question to this list, what stage are you on in the 6 stages of recovery? (see hidden information for the stages and details of each)

I reckon about stage 2 maybe 3? Well cause i know what i'm doing needs to change and i recognise i need to change my whole thought process and think good stuff. but thats about it, i am meant currently to be thinking the + stuff, but yeah..

18-03-2010, 10:24 PM	#18
DontLookUp Saffyx Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: UK I am currently:	1. List the ways that you self-harm - cutting 2. How do these behaviors help you survive? - control, release and calm 3. How does this behavior give me a sense of control? I'm not sure, it just helps me get control of my feelings back. 4. How/Why does this behavior release endorphins (the happy factor) and make me feel better? umm.. i think maybe cause when you bleed endorphins are released to help stop the pain and heal the cut? 5. How does this behavior give me revenge? i've never thought of what i do in terms of revenge, more of self hatred. 6. How does this behavior punish me? hurts me afterwards, cuts make me feel better cause i know at least if i have hurt myself i am getting what i deserve. 7. When and why did you start this behavior? a few months ago, i didnt mean to but it just happened because i just couldnt cope anymore. 8. How/Why does this behavior bring me affection, care, or emotional closure? (How does it comfort you? if this applies) because i know that at the end of it all, i always have a way to feel better when nothing else can help and i am hurting so much. Copy and paste this section, delete the lines that do not apply to you, leaving only the ones that do: I want to express my rage at myself I hate myself I want to distract myself from other pain I want to numb my feelings I have a message to give that I cant' say directly I am asking for help I want to be rescued I want to express my shame I am trying to express my pain I am trying to bring my emotions under control I am trying to release emotional tension I need a release valve I need to get into a "neutral zone" I am trying to buy myself time by focusing attention on physical rather than emotional pain Now, think about your reason(s) for harming, list 3-5 things you could do instead. 1. shower 2. listen to music and read 3. cry and sleep Which of the following are true for you? (Again delete the ones that do not apply for you) It's my body, I can do what I want with it (sometimes believe this) It's no big deal and shouldn't upset anyone (i sometimes believe this) If I don't hurt myself this way, my pain will be worse No one knows about it anyways I need to be punished for what I did (sometimes) It just shows how bad a person I am (and sometimes) FINALLY! I'm adding one more question to this list, what stage are you on in the 6 stages of recovery? (see hidden information for the stages and details of each) I reckon about stage 2 maybe 3? Well cause i know what i'm doing needs to change and i recognise i need to change my whole thought process and think good stuff. but thats about it, i am meant currently to be thinking the + stuff, but yeah..
	♥ .I'm going to fall like I don't need saving. ♥ ...My smile's just the armour I built when I was alone... There was some part of me that hurt so badly, that I wouldn't ever be able to forget it. It faded but the memories could bring it back any second, keeping me in the moment. It would never fully heal. I could never really be free. I could never really be fixed. Now I just have to work out how to live whilst being broken. I feel like I'm dying.