1. List the ways that you self-harm
Cutting, burning, hairpulling, bruising, restricting.
2. How do these behaviors help you survive?
They allow me to calm down, think and feel alive.
3. How does this behavior give me a sense of control?
Becasue i know what im doing to myself. I choose it and i can do as much/little as i need/like. They make me feel powerful & power is control...
4. How/Why does this behavior release endorphins (the happy factor) and make me feel better?
Via pain.
5. How does this behavior give me revenge?
Serves me right to suffer.
6. How does this behavior punish me?
It hurts me, and the scars punish me too.
7. When and why did you start this behavior?
I started just over a year ago. I'm not too sure why, but it soon got worse and more meaningful.
8. How/Why does this behavior bring me affection, care, or emotional closure? (How does it comfort you? if this applies)
It makes me feel that i've done it and it (whatever it is) is over. It makes me feel like i've got something right - as in how i hurt myself.
Copy and paste this section, delete the lines that do not apply to you, leaving only the ones that do:
I want to show that I own my body
I want to express my rage at myself
I hate myself
I want to distract myself from other pain
I want to numb my feelings
I have a message to give that I cant' say directly
I want to be rescued
I want to cleanse myself
I want to express my shame
I am trying to express my pain
I am retaliating against myself for telling secrets
I am trying to bring my emotions under control
I am trying to prove that I am alive
I am trying to get "high"
I am trying to release emotional tension
I need a release valve
I need to get into a "neutral zone"
I am trying to buy myself time by focusing attention on physical rather than emotional pain
Now, think about your reason(s) for harming, list 3-5 things you could do instead.
1. Exercise vigourously.
2. Take a cold shower.
3. Draw/paint over my body.
Which of the following are true for you? (Again delete the ones that do not apply for you)
It's my body, I can do what I want with it
I need to be punished for what I did
It just shows how bad a person I am
The scars are there for a reason, they remind me of my shame
For my cutting etc, i think i am in 3. Action.
But for the 'ed' side definatly 1.
Thankyou for sharing :)
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