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lilrenthefox · 18-03-2010, 05:41 AM

I'm glad to see a few posts in such a short amount of time :) here's mine

1. List the ways that you self-harm <no tip sharing, be generic>
Cutting
2. How do these behaviors help you survive?
It lets me think I'm in control and gives me a release from emotional pain
3. How does this behavior give me a sense of control?
I control how many cuts, how deep, where they are, when they heal, and how much pain i'm in
4. How does this behavior release endorphins (the happy factor) and make me feel better?
It makes me feel like I'm cutting the bad part(s) of me away
5. How does this behavior give me revenge?
I hate myself sometimes
6. How does this behavior punish me?
puts me through pain and the people i've hurt get the justice they deserve and cuts the people who hurt me out of my life
7. When and why did you start this behavior?
age 6-7, got picked on at school and was very "clumsy" got in a lot of "accidents" since I didn't know about cutting then
8. How does this behavior bring me affection, care, or emotional closure?
It makes me feel accomplished, like I've cut a bit more of the pain out of my life

Copy and paste this section, delete the lines that do not apply to you, leaving only the ones that do:

I want to express my rage at myself
I hate myself
I want to distract myself from other pain
I believe my body is a battleground
I want to cleanse myself
I want to somehow atone for my sins
I want to express my shame
I am trying to express my pain
I am taking over where my abuser left off
I am trying to bring my emotions under control
I am trying to manage my flashbacks/memories
I am trying to release emotional tension
I need a release valve
I am trying to buy myself time by focusing attention on physical rather than emotional pain

Now, think about your reason(s) for harming, list 3-5 things you could do instead.
1. drawing/writing
2. playing with my puppy
3. playing world of warcraft

Which of the following are true for you? (Again delete the ones that do not apply for you)
If I don't hurt myself this way, my pain will be worse
No one knows about it anyways
I need to be punished for what I did
It just shows how bad a person I am
The scars are there for a reason, they remind me of my shame/need for punishment

This was helpful to me, I hope you all find it helpful to you too :D

18-03-2010, 05:41 AM	#4
lilrenthefox Join Date: Jan 2010 I am currently:	Wow :D I'm glad to see a few posts in such a short amount of time :) here's mine 1. List the ways that you self-harm <no tip sharing, be generic> Cutting 2. How do these behaviors help you survive? It lets me think I'm in control and gives me a release from emotional pain 3. How does this behavior give me a sense of control? I control how many cuts, how deep, where they are, when they heal, and how much pain i'm in 4. How does this behavior release endorphins (the happy factor) and make me feel better? It makes me feel like I'm cutting the bad part(s) of me away 5. How does this behavior give me revenge? I hate myself sometimes 6. How does this behavior punish me? puts me through pain and the people i've hurt get the justice they deserve and cuts the people who hurt me out of my life 7. When and why did you start this behavior? age 6-7, got picked on at school and was very "clumsy" got in a lot of "accidents" since I didn't know about cutting then 8. How does this behavior bring me affection, care, or emotional closure? It makes me feel accomplished, like I've cut a bit more of the pain out of my life Copy and paste this section, delete the lines that do not apply to you, leaving only the ones that do: I want to express my rage at myself I hate myself I want to distract myself from other pain I believe my body is a battleground I want to cleanse myself I want to somehow atone for my sins I want to express my shame I am trying to express my pain I am taking over where my abuser left off I am trying to bring my emotions under control I am trying to manage my flashbacks/memories I am trying to release emotional tension I need a release valve I am trying to buy myself time by focusing attention on physical rather than emotional pain Now, think about your reason(s) for harming, list 3-5 things you could do instead. 1. drawing/writing 2. playing with my puppy 3. playing world of warcraft Which of the following are true for you? (Again delete the ones that do not apply for you) If I don't hurt myself this way, my pain will be worse No one knows about it anyways I need to be punished for what I did It just shows how bad a person I am The scars are there for a reason, they remind me of my shame/need for punishment This was helpful to me, I hope you all find it helpful to you too :D
lilrenthefox Join Date: Jan 2010 I am currently:	I hurt myself before others get the chance... I hurt myself because others hurt me and I can't stand the pain... To tell the truth, I'm afraid of recovery beause it means I have to let go...