Ten years etc is not really as big a difference in real life as it is in school etc. I mean we would have never had the Sound of Music if everyone stuck to narrow windows of ages lol.
That said, your fellow could be wayward. As a guy who studied in arts and works in them there are a lot of people who get stuck in that lifestyle trying to get little crumbs of ego recognition and playing music in bars like Little Tommy Tucker singing for his supper. You want to be careful of that.
That said, 35ish is still pretty youngish and a lot of people really don't start to get settled until that age job/career wise etc. These days its hard to even feel secure.
What you would need to do is test him sorely. Guys can change a lot and alter their life and get focused -but not if they are getting spoiled. If you get in relationship with him and start giving him "benefits" so to speak (and the worst thing you could do is live with him - that spoils guys for sure - you could easily end up stuck playing his mommy).
You don't have to make a show and put your foot down. Just say your interested in him but at your not going to squander yourself on just anyone who perhaps isn't that serious about life yet. Act like your agreeable but have high expectations with regard to character. If he chokes on that then be glad to lose what you should never have had (him).
I don't know if you want kids or not but a ladies time frame is smaller for children and at 25ish you don't want to waste so many years on a guy who might be wayward by nature. I see too many women waste time on vagabonds when they have a lot of choices - and then get what Germans call "torschlusspanik" or fear of the closing door. Then they try to make do with leftover guys.
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