My boyfriend was a friend beforehand, and i had told him. So he was already aware, so he fell for me knowing about all my problems. And while sure, dealing with me can be a pain (he's said as much), he supports me wonderfully. I think it has a lot to do with, i only went into this relationship becuase i was sure. I pick my friends etc very carefully, i've never made a mistake. So im very serious. But if a *close* friend or someone couldnt accept these issues i have, then screw them, they arent good enough for me. I put up with them bitching about their (frequently changing) boyfriends, they should damn well support me.
I think, honesty straight up is important. It gives them a chance to leave, because not everyone can deal with it. But if they leave,you havent lost anything. And if you feel you have to lie, or cant talk about it, whats the point in having a relationship?
While i'm clean, my urges and severe depression makes it hard on my boy. I asked him what he would change about me if he could, and he said he'd want me to feel better in general and about myself.
Every relationships has issues, whether it be issues about parents, mental health, family disagreements, medical things etc. Ours is just different, but we should treat it the same. If you cant work past it, or have to lie, its really not a happy healthy place to be.
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