last year i told my boyfriend about my cutting...i tried hinting at it for a while but even though it seemed obvious to me...he thought i had stretch marks or something and that i had been pregnant...i don't know how he got that. Like you i had them on my side...i had started on my wrists and they were barely noticeable. Then i went to my side as i also dance and do show choir (both which require either short sleeves or in most cases tank tops/stuff with spaggetti straps) Then i did the stupid thing of writing on my arm ( i wrote love and hope...don't really know why.. and it was on my left arm) I even told him that i have some scars on my side and on my arm but he still concluded that i had been pregnant at one time. anyway getting on to when i actually told him...i was really scared but i called him and asked him if he could meet me at the park near my house...i kinda explained to him that i was having problems and asked him if he had figured out what i had been trying to hint to him about and he said no but he was starting to get the idea and then i'm like well those scars i told you about...i did it myself... surprisingly he took it a lot better than i thought he would...i had been expecting him to break up with me or get upset...he was hurt i think but that was the day he hinted that he thought he loved me. If your boyfriend cares about you (which i assume he does) then he will just want the best for you. he may over react if he has never been around anyone who cuts but it sounds like he thinks you cut already and seems to care about you if he thinks he should be worried. The thing that got me to tell my boyfriend is that even if i hurt him by telling him it would be worse if he found out from someone else. i would try hinting at it and see if he brings it up again and then tell him. if he doesn't take the hint then tell him when you are ready to..but the longer you wait the harder it will be. Message me anytime. *hugs*
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