my friends are a lot like that too. and in one of my classes the other day we got off topic and started discussing the movie "Thirteen" and everyone was saying how they couldn't watch the part where the girl cuts herself, they didn't understand how someone could enjoy their own pain, and it was just stupid and attention seeking.
i've been cutting for about a year. only within the past month have i opened up to anyone about it. my best friend is a guy and i he has dealt with a lot of different issues, plus his parents are both social workers, so he is understanding and supportive. he really doesn't like talking about it, probably because he has no idea what to say, but he is always supportive or quick to protect me. i've also told two of my girl friends. they also both have plenty of their own problems, so talking to them is quite easy because they understand and aren't judgmental.
most of my friends, on the other hand, are quite sheltered and very judgmental. they've never dealt with emotional trauma so really can't understand the intense emotions someone with these habits experiences. not that they don't experience sadness ever, but one said the other day that the worst thing that had ever happened to her was breaking up with her middle school boyfriend. they talk about how cutting is "sick", how people who have eating disorders should just "get on a treadmill if they want to lose weight" and toss around words like schizophrenic and bipolar without any regard. i feel like if i told them, they would be supportive but we would grow apart since they don't understand the behaviour at all.
it all depends on your relationship with them and how much you trust them. if there is one in particular who you trust, maybe you could only tell them? then they would sort of be there to back you up if the others were talking about cutting.
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