ive had two relationships since i started self harming and surprisingly bother went pretty well. the first i was best friends with for cose to a year, including over time spent inpatient after suicide attempts so he always knew of my problems and he didnt seem bothered at all.
my current boyfriend (of 2 years) and i were set up via a blind date. i was so nervous i asked my friend who set it up to tell him i self harmed before we met and see if he still wanted to meet me. luckily for me he did. it was hard in the early days because he didnt really understand it and he thought i was activley trying to kill myself. i tried to explain as much as i could and got some material off the net for him to read. two years on hes great with it. he understand why i do it and realises i have to stop in my own time. although that doesnt stop him getting upset when i do it. he doesnt seem to even notice my scars anymore, which is amazing!
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