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You probably already know that to have ASD you have to have the triad of impairments i.e. with communication, social interaction and flexibility of thinking. A lot of what you describe is also the result of PTSD and difficulties from childhood. E.g for me sudden noises make me jump but this is due to hyper vigilence rather than hyper sensitivity to noise which would be a trait of ASD.
I guess what I'm saying is that aspects of ASD can also be down to different reasons and as it is a spectrum everyone can have certain traits.