hmm do you think that it might be possible to talk to Rebecca?
The thing which concerns me the most, is how any child that age would know how to do those sort of things. Kids that age learn from example, they copy what they have seen. My guess is she was probably copying from example.
Now this in no way makes what she did any better, however, in her mind at the time, this would only be the same as playing house, or chase. I am sure that now, when she looks back on it with an adult mind, she also feels guilty.
It was not something either of you knew any better about. At that age neither of you knew what was going on, you did not know the thingsit would lead to. Whilst you had never experinced it before and felt some guilty/remorse at the time, if she had seen it happen elsewhere, she would not have felt this.
Again I will stress that this in no way makes things right. However, I cant help but wonder if maybe talking to her about your past experince could help bring you some closure. Some way of knowing or proving, that you where not at fault. That it was done by example, as oppossed to "being dirty" as you put it.
In the long run, you need to find clousure. Sure it is possible to move on from things without dealing with them, however, at this point, I think you need to deal with it first.
You need to find your own way of knowing that you are not dirty. Then maybe you can move on from it.
Sorry if what I said sounds wrong in any way.
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