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-Stewie- · 02-12-2009, 03:15 AM

Like the topic says this may sound dumb. Before I go further I just want to say this isn't something I really see as a 'problem', I'm actually happy in this relationship and it's doing me a lot of good (as opposed to all the trouble I had with it at the start which people may remember me constantly posting about).

Anyway.. the issue (not a problem just something thats playing on my mind a little) is that my partner has been in other relationships whereas I haven't. I've had people confide in me in the past about this kind of thing and it seems to me (I wouldn't know obviously) that when you've had past partners, sex doesn't seem that big a thing to you anymore, where if you haven't it's not the case.

To put it bluntly *deep breath* I am a lot more bothered about it than he is, and because of this I feel like a dirty whore. I am not like that, I know deep down I am not- if we were to break up the last thing I would care about is not having someone to have sex with- there is so much more to the relationship that means a hell of a lot more to me than that. But regardless the fact I am more 'bothered' about it just makes me feel disgusted with myself- I'm ashamed to have written this and I'd be ashamed to discuss it with him.

However, shame aside, I do need outside advice with this and I can't face talking to any friends about it. Help?

02-12-2009, 03:15 AM	#1
-Stewie- da quen b Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: London I am currently:	relationship issue... might sound dumb Like the topic says this may sound dumb. Before I go further I just want to say this isn't something I really see as a 'problem', I'm actually happy in this relationship and it's doing me a lot of good (as opposed to all the trouble I had with it at the start which people may remember me constantly posting about). Anyway.. the issue (not a problem just something thats playing on my mind a little) is that my partner has been in other relationships whereas I haven't. I've had people confide in me in the past about this kind of thing and it seems to me (I wouldn't know obviously) that when you've had past partners, sex doesn't seem that big a thing to you anymore, where if you haven't it's not the case. To put it bluntly deep breath I am a lot more bothered about it than he is, and because of this I feel like a dirty whore. I am not like that, I know deep down I am not- if we were to break up the last thing I would care about is not having someone to have sex with- there is so much more to the relationship that means a hell of a lot more to me than that. But regardless the fact I am more 'bothered' about it just makes me feel disgusted with myself- I'm ashamed to have written this and I'd be ashamed to discuss it with him. However, shame aside, I do need outside advice with this and I can't face talking to any friends about it. Help?
	"Zeus did not want man to throw his life away, no matter how much the other evils might torment him, but rather to go on letting himself be tormented anew. To that end, he gives man hope. In truth, it is the most evil of evils because it prolongs man's torment."