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lozstar88 · 16-10-2009, 08:14 AM

hey hun ((((cuddles)))))

I don't have any good advice, I'm sorry, I just wanted you to know that I read and I care and that I also went through quite a similar experience (SA at 8 and r***ed at 17) and I too completely blocked it out...until the incident at 17 brought up the stuff at 8. I failed my first relationship I had and my SH/ED increased due to the memories and flashbacks that it brought up and have never tried again.

blocking it out (I have been told) is a way of your mind saying you are not ready to deal with it at the time, which is why it would have been extremely difficult to talk about in therapy, now that it is all coming up for you may be a good time to get it off your chest, if you feel up to it.

You deserve to be happy and be in a loving relationship (hugs). If your CPN is any good they should not say "havent you already dealt with this?" because that comment could be seriously damaging and SA is wayyyyyyyyy too complecated to just be sorted 'that' easily.

I wish you all the best hun, sorry for my useless post, just wanted you to know that you're not alone in the way you feel.

xxooxx

16-10-2009, 08:14 AM	#2
lozstar88 my star has died...but its light still shines Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: In my Hidey hole...somewhere in Oz I am currently:	hey hun ((((cuddles))))) I don't have any good advice, I'm sorry, I just wanted you to know that I read and I care and that I also went through quite a similar experience (SA at 8 and r**ed at 17) and I too completely blocked it out...until the incident at 17 brought up the stuff at 8. I failed my first relationship I had and my SH/ED increased due to the memories and flashbacks that it brought up and have never tried again. blocking it out (I have been told) is a way of your mind saying you are not ready to deal with it at the time, which is why it would have been extremely difficult to talk about in therapy, now that it is all coming up for you may be a good time to get it off your chest, if you feel up to it. You deserve to be happy and be in a loving relationship (hugs). If your CPN is any good they should not say "havent you already dealt with this?" because that comment could be seriously damaging and SA is wayyyyyyyyy too complecated to just be sorted 'that' easily. I wish you all the best hun, sorry for my useless post, just wanted you to know that you're not alone in the way you feel. xxooxx Last edited by lozstar88 : 16-10-2009 at 08:16 AM. Reason: spelling ahhhhh*
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