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Rain that's Fallen · 04-10-2009, 01:24 PM

I am not too savvy with how to quote online, so apologies if this goes wrong....

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I was so upset and he said to me "at the end of the day the repsonsibility is on you guys" (being the patients) and I yelled back "no! the reason she was in hospital was because she could not keep herself safe, therefore it was your responsibility!"...out of line I know and I apologise a thousand times and still feel really bad but...

The bit he said that I've bolded, I think was absolutely and utterly disgusting. He had no right to say that and there is no truth in it either, however there is truth in what you said, that it was his responsiblity. It may not have been right to have said it to him, but he was a thousand times more out of order to have said that to you in the first place. It was not your fault hun, it was no one's fault, and I am so glad you are out of that hospital because it sounds like a terrible place.

I had a similar situation in hospital, I had been misdiagnosed with bpd, and was told I was abusive, when those with psychosis appeared to me to be more abusive not so much to the staff but to me (for instance threatening me whilst staff did not do anything, which made me angry and 'abusive' verbally towards staff). What angers me so much though, is that whilst yes people with psychosis are out of touch with reality, it does not mean that people with borderline personality disorder are any less worthy of help, you are still scared, and unwell, and in need of help. I think a part of bpd is also that you feel out of control, and I think very often people who have bpd are out of control, there is also an element of psychosis in bpd and basically what I'm trying to say is that yes I believe you have some grasp of control (just as I believe those with psychosis have some grasp of control over some of their actions too) but taht does not make you any less worthy of help.

If you wanted to make a formal complaint or get PALS involved you have every right to. How are you feeling at the moment? Is it any better being out of hospital?

04-10-2009, 01:24 PM	#4
Rain that's Fallen Join Date: Aug 2009	I am not too savvy with how to quote online, so apologies if this goes wrong.... Quote: I was so upset and he said to me "at the end of the day the repsonsibility is on you guys" (being the patients) and I yelled back "no! the reason she was in hospital was because she could not keep herself safe, therefore it was your responsibility!"...out of line I know and I apologise a thousand times and still feel really bad but... The bit he said that I've bolded, I think was absolutely and utterly disgusting. He had no right to say that and there is no truth in it either, however there is truth in what you said, that it was his responsiblity. It may not have been right to have said it to him, but he was a thousand times more out of order to have said that to you in the first place. It was not your fault hun, it was no one's fault, and I am so glad you are out of that hospital because it sounds like a terrible place. I had a similar situation in hospital, I had been misdiagnosed with bpd, and was told I was abusive, when those with psychosis appeared to me to be more abusive not so much to the staff but to me (for instance threatening me whilst staff did not do anything, which made me angry and 'abusive' verbally towards staff). What angers me so much though, is that whilst yes people with psychosis are out of touch with reality, it does not mean that people with borderline personality disorder are any less worthy of help, you are still scared, and unwell, and in need of help. I think a part of bpd is also that you feel out of control, and I think very often people who have bpd are out of control, there is also an element of psychosis in bpd and basically what I'm trying to say is that yes I believe you have some grasp of control (just as I believe those with psychosis have some grasp of control over some of their actions too) but taht does not make you any less worthy of help. If you wanted to make a formal complaint or get PALS involved you have every right to. How are you feeling at the moment? Is it any better being out of hospital?
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