Sometimes, going back to work can actually help. I don't have BPD (I'm - apparently - schizoaffective), but working has really helped me. I've had to take time off, but I know that being in meaningful employment gives me a purpose and stops me from going downhill.
The psychs have said the same to me, that they'd do whatever I felt was comfortable, but I'm so glad I made the decision to go back to work. I was unemployed for about 3 months after I came out of hospital, and it did my self-esteem no good at all.
Could you go back part-time on a trial basis? If you don't cope, that's ok, but at least you will have tried it. I'm not saying it's easy (I spent a lot of time locked in the staff toilets for the first few months), but it might help in the long run.
I know it's hard, but try to switch the "I can't do it" thoughts around - you are capable; you've done it before. That doesn't mean that you don't struggle, or that you feel ok - you still need to recognise that things are difficult for you right now, but that doesn't mean it's impossible.
Can work make any reasonable adjustments for your return to work? Regular supervision, reduced responsibility etc?
*Hugs*
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