Well that's a root cause of what has kept from yourself. Being domineering and over-protective smothers a kid and keeps them anchored outside themselves and often in other people who just assume the same role as the parent - as if they were a stand-in. They don't even have to try since your conditioning will cause you to select someone to pull your strings (for better or for worse - it hardly maters which).
If your Mum resented your dad she may have caused you to resent him which will also breed guilt and anxiety. Of course Dad should have been more active and in s real sense he let you down abandoning you to the same pressures from mum (who could probably not help herself) that made. him go soft and silent lol. Your lucky if you don't have asthma or schizophrenia. I would write more but an electric storm is hitting as I type and I must turn off le puter
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