I had sex when blacked out drunk before. I don't count those experiences because they're not memorable... at all.
The first time I soberly chose to have sex I did mainly because I didn't like being teased by my friends for being a "virgin" at 20. So this one guy flat out told me "I'd like to **** you" and I said "okay, when?"
I don't regret my first memorable experience being something like that but I only wish it had been with someone I truly cared for. But don't beat yourself up over still being a virgin. It's not a huge deal in the end. I eventually told my friends why I slept with that guy and they were all "oh, well, you could have just told us it bothered you and we would have stopped. We never actually thought you were any less of an adult because of it."
After that guy I ended up sleeping with someone I was close to and really cared about. It was so much better when it was with him as we had this comfort level that still hasn't been matched by anyone else. Don't do it just to do it. At least wait until you have someone you can laugh at the embarrassing things with instead of run away in shame.
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